Listen now | What I want vs. what my heart desires. We all want to be happy. Happiness is being in love. Not romantically but with life itself, with the experience of life, with every moment. Being in love is the absence of fear. Fear of not being rich, beautiful, successful, safe, secure, understand, loved or appreciated enough. That (unconscious or conscious) fear keeps us chasing the future. And it makes the present moment, the moment right now an unpleasant and un-present one.